A picture of a typewriter entitled "goals".

Do you make resolutions? I do. Or, rather, did, but I wanted to try something new this year. I find with resolutions, I often would burn out OR I would have to completely pivot or scrap it (which isn’t bad in and of itself), but ideally, it’d be nice to have something stick around, wouldn’t it? Resolutions can work, yep, but oftentimes, like me, I BURN OUT.

Today on the blog, I’m sharing about why new year’s resolutions often don’t work and what to try instead.

Scrap new year’s resolutions and try formation instead.

Instead of resolutions, I’m focusing on “formation”: areas of my life I’d like to focus on - a continuation or a deepening of my own growth vs. a huge overhaul of goals in my life. Why do new year’s resolutions often don’t work for me? I’d burnout from too many goals. Or over the top goals. Or goals that are at step Z, but I’m just needing to go from A to B.

Developing myself into more of…myself, so to speak. So instead of aiming for an end point of a certain goal, for instance, it’s about doing certain actions that points us to where we think we’d like to go. I’m focusing on five areas to keep it simple this year, but may add more as time goes on. As I also don’t see this as a one and done thing, but a continuation.

So instead of aiming for an end point of a certain goal, for instance, it’s about doing certain actions that points us to where we think we’d like to go.

What I’m focusing on for areas of formation this year:
  1. Nutrition
  2. Spiritual life
  3. Relationships (close friends and my husband especially)
  4. Personal growth/education
  5. Creativity/play
Other ideas of areas of formation to look at:
  • Health
  • Exercise
  • Nutrition
  • Systems in the home
  • Organization
  • Habits
  • Mental health
  • Emotional health
  • Stress management
  • Learn a new skill
  • Family life

…the list could go on and your list may be completely different too, such as the 5 aspects of personal development.

Writing down goals on paper.

Maybe it’s time to try something a bit different with “resolutions” or new year’s goals this year.

New year’s resolutions often don’t work because they are TOO much, many, or unrealistic.

PS I created a worksheet for you if you’d like to do this alongside with me, the un new year’s resolution worksheet. My Formation Worksheet for 2021 (the un New Year’s Resolution Worksheet). A spot for you to write down the areas you’d like to work on formation, the action steps, and a spot for notes. You can grab that here.

Hi, I’m Kelly! I’m a mother of four children - three boys, one toddler girl - and our family lives on the beautiful east coast of Canada. I’m a past elementary teacher, turned stay at home, work at home mom eight years ago after I had my second child. I’ve found that the busier I’ve become and as my children age, that it’s become even more important to figure out what is most important to me and us as a family. Living a simpler lifestyle has helped us in so many ways in our home life - from better routines to faster tidying up times. It has been through my children that I have been inspired to learn how to effectively manage my time and to simplify in all areas of my home and life. I enjoy helping busy moms simplify home life by teaching flexible planning methods and skills. Enjoyed this blog and think it would be helpful to others? I'd love if you shared it. Thank you!