The digital world has been a part of my life for as long as I’ve been a mom - ten years now. And over the years, I’ve had to grapple with why I use social media in particular. For me, it’s all about the WHY in why I’m showing up in the digital world. Over the years, I’ve had to create boundaries with the digital world. It used to suck me in often. So my relationship with the digital world is often under reassessment to make sure the time I spend here is with intention. It’ll look different for everyone, of course. For me currently, I come to the digital world for inspiration, support, and community. It’s not meant to replace my “real life”, but to add to it. To be a part of my life, but not to become my life. When I remind myself of these things, it helps me to stick to these things. Without the guilt or time sucking (as often).
For me, having healthy digital boundaries:
- It means I don’t reach for my phone as soon as I wake up. I turn to my morning routine instead.
- It means I don’t touch my phone (much) when I’m homeschooling - my attention is with them. Sometimes I do pop in when they’re doing independent work, but that’s a boundary I made for myself I’m comfortable with.
- It means I have set aside times to check into social media. This one is newer to me and it’s still a work in progress, but it’s getting there!
Here are a couple practical tips in setting healthy digital boundaries:
1. Turn off your notifications from popping up automatically.
2. Set limits for checking notifications and other messages. Such as: morning, evening, or just timing yourself and not checking them as they pop up.
You can read more great ideas on healthy digital boundaries on this blog too.
A couple book recommendations on digital boundaries? Hands Free Mama: A Guide to Putting Down the Phone, Burning the To-Do List, and Letting Go of Perfection to Grasp What Really Matters and Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World. Lots of food for thought for sure.
FREE “Creating Digital Boundaries” worksheet
PS if you’d like to work on your own healthy digital boundaries even more, I created a two page worksheet for you. It goes over:
- my work in progress digital boundaries to give you an idea
- five questions to ask yourself to create your own healthy digital boundaries
You can find that free worksheet HERE.
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Hi, I’m Kelly! I’m a mother of four children - three boys, one toddler girl - and our family lives on the beautiful east coast of Canada. I’m a past elementary teacher, turned stay at home, work at home mom eight years ago after I had my second child. I’ve found that the busier I’ve become and as my children age, that it’s become even more important to figure out what is most important to me and us as a family. Living a simpler lifestyle has helped us in so many ways in our home life - from better routines to faster tidying up times. It has been through my children that I have been inspired to learn how to effectively manage my time and to simplify in all areas of my home and life. I enjoy helping busy moms simplify home life by teaching flexible planning methods and skills. Enjoyed this blog and think it would be helpful to others? I'd love if you shared it. Thank you!